praying won't do shit, keep doing what your doing, keep speaking to specialists and just keep working at it. i hope it all works out for you and your daughter
You pick me up about mis-quoting and then do exactly the same thing. I didn't say she must teach her daughter right from wrong, kids learn that in all sorts of ways in the home.
Yes. I realized right after I posted that, that I had misquoted you, so I edited my post. I'm sorry about that.
So maybe Sunny isn't as sympathetic as you would wish for, but she was being honest to herself, and not holding back her thoughts. I have a thought or two of my own, and maybe they'll also not be popular, but here goes.
I'm just surprised personally that you posted this here. Not just in the Travis part of the forum, but on the forum at all. (yes there might have been a system error putting the thread here, but why the Travis board at all????). With the greatest of respect, you would probably get more sympathy, and maybe alternative advice, if you posted this on a parenting forum.
I'm a parent myself, and I'm really sorry but I don't come on here to read about parenting problems. I opened this thread thinking it was a request for Travis to come and play in your part of the world!
I truly wish you well, and I empathise and sympathise with what sounds like a ghastly situation. However, I also have issues with one of my kids, and I would not in any circustances think of drawing attention to the problem here.
If this forum is where you draw your "spritual" support from, as it appears, I'm a bit bewildered. But I genuinely wish you "good luck, and I hope you get the outcome you wish for".
(Assuming that's what you wanted by starting the thread, so I guess that means you've achieved your aim ).
I'm just curious -- how do you recommend that we teach her right from wrong?? My impression was that disciplining her for not acting appropriately and rewarding her when she does act appropriately, was in fact teaching her right from wrong. Clearly, I am not just praying and calling psychologists to miraculously cure her. But what we are doing isn't working and I am looking for help.
It must make life so much easier for you to judge everyone else through your obviously myopic views. Unfortunately, life is a little more complicated than that.
I'm sorry I thought you'd posted this on a band forum (thus the majority of us are not qualified in child psychology) because you wanted some opinions, not people to simply agree with you. My mistake.
This bitching is particularly unnecassary and mean.
So maybe Sunny isn't as sympathetic as you would wish for, but she was being honest to herself, and not holding back her thoughts. I have a thought or two of my own, and maybe they'll also not be popular, but here goes.
I'm just surprised personally that you posted this here. Not just in the Travis part of the forum, but on the forum at all. (yes there might have been a system error putting the thread here, but why the Travis board at all????). With the greatest of respect, you would probably get more sympathy, and maybe alternative advice, if you posted this on a parenting forum.
I'm a parent myself, and I'm really sorry but I don't come on here to read about parenting problems. I opened this thread thinking it was a request for Travis to come and play in your part of the world!
I truly wish you well, and I empathise and sympathise with what sounds like a ghastly situation. However, I also have issues with one of my kids, and I would not in any circustances think of drawing attention to the problem here.
If this forum is where you draw your "spritual" support from, as it appears, I'm a bit bewildered. But I genuinely wish you "good luck, and I hope you get the outcome you wish for".
(Assuming that's what you wanted by starting the thread, so I guess that means you've achieved your aim ).
As much as I understand your point of view and respect it, I personally find it's really not a big deal at all that this post was placed on the Travis messageboard and in the Travis forum. People do mistakes, don't spend their life on this board, don't respect all the "golden rules" and it make life interesting sometimes. I find it nice to see a variety of subject on the board including parent subject, love subject, work subject, spiritual subject, after all why not it makes a change from the majority of superficial posts, whatever people want to talk about is fine by me. If somebody else wants to respond then great if nobody does then fine. If topics don't interest some on the board they should just move on like I often do, and it doesn't mean those posts have to be banned unless this place is becoming a dictatorship which I know it's not...despite the attempts of some.
Ok, this may sound silly but I wanted to request your prayers for my daughter Elinor. She is having trouble with biting her friends at daycare -- and we've tried everything from talking to the daycare director, psychologists/counselors, the special education district, Ellie's speech therapist and pediatrician. We've also tried using sticker sheets, rewards, time outs -- even taking away her beloved fruit snacks -- all to no avail. We are nearing the point where she will be disenrolled from daycare - and I have been having to leave work on a much too frequent basis. I am literally not sure what else to do...so if you could pray for us and for Ellie I would really appreciate it. (And while you're at it, feel free to pray for us to win the lottery so I can stay home with Ellie :) which is the solution I really wish we could make work!!).
Ok, this may sound silly but I wanted to request your prayers for my daughter Elinor. She is having trouble with biting her friends at daycare -- and we've tried everything from talking to the daycare director, psychologists/counselors, the special education district, Ellie's speech therapist and pediatrician. We've also tried using sticker sheets, rewards, time outs -- even taking away her beloved fruit snacks -- all to no avail. We are nearing the point where she will be disenrolled from daycare - and I have been having to leave work on a much too frequent basis. I am literally not sure what else to do...so if you could pray for us and for Ellie I would really appreciate it. (And while you're at it, feel free to pray for us to win the lottery so I can stay home with Ellie :) which is the solution I really wish we could make work!!).
Thanks for your help -
Joanna
Hi Joanna,
I hope things will get better and they will. My sister had the same problem with her twin girls who are as sweet as angels and very well educated but for some strange reason they wouldn't stop doing that when they were about 3. She continued telling them off up to a point when she finally did something you might find shocking but she did bite them (reasonnably hard) to make them understand the pain. Afterwards they stopped!
Good luck, it will work out.
Sophie
You pick me up about mis-quoting and then do exactly the same thing. I didn't say she must teach her daughter right from wrong, kids learn that in all sorts of ways in the home.
Yes. I realized right after I posted that, that I had misquoted you, so I edited my post. I'm sorry about that.
Thanks for clarifying :)
About her kid not knowing right from wrong. That's just a simplified version of her kid biting, which is obviously wrong. So, in effect, I was just stating the obvious (as I do quite a lot!)
So maybe Sunny isn't as sympathetic as you would wish for, but she was being honest to herself, and not holding back her thoughts. I have a thought or two of my own, and maybe they'll also not be popular, but here goes.
I'm just surprised personally that you posted this here. Not just in the Travis part of the forum, but on the forum at all. (yes there might have been a system error putting the thread here, but why the Travis board at all????). With the greatest of respect, you would probably get more sympathy, and maybe alternative advice, if you posted this on a parenting forum.
I'm a parent myself, and I'm really sorry but I don't come on here to read about parenting problems. I opened this thread thinking it was a request for Travis to come and play in your part of the world!
I truly wish you well, and I empathise and sympathise with what sounds like a ghastly situation. However, I also have issues with one of my kids, and I would not in any circustances think of drawing attention to the problem here.
If this forum is where you draw your "spritual" support from, as it appears, I'm a bit bewildered. But I genuinely wish you "good luck, and I hope you get the outcome you wish for".
(Assuming that's what you wanted by starting the thread, so I guess that means you've achieved your aim ).
I can do sympathy - in small doses - and I wrote a few things before I settled on my original post, which is far more sedate than I originally intentioned.
I've always maintained that if you (or I) post anything on this board (from the sublime to the ridiculous) you're open to opinions, suggestions and (sometimes) negative feedback - that's the way the virtual world works, particularly as there is no hard and fast rule about what you can and cannot post here. People can be harsh (not in a swearing/insulting way, because that is wrong) or generally not what you were expecting, but I believe it all adds something to a conversation, even if the majority might not agree.
With regard to the "bitiching", I was matching the tone of the poster who replied to me. I rarely bitch without reason.
And Ursina wasn't "slagging off" the poster for posting in the wrong forum, this is quite evident.
Sorry Tonie, I thought it best to tag onto the end of your post, not all of my response is aimed at you. Nice post there btw.
So maybe Sunny isn't as sympathetic as you would wish for, but she was being honest to herself, and not holding back her thoughts. I have a thought or two of my own, and maybe they'll also not be popular, but here goes.
I'm just surprised personally that you posted this here. Not just in the Travis part of the forum, but on the forum at all. (yes there might have been a system error putting the thread here, but why the Travis board at all????). With the greatest of respect, you would probably get more sympathy, and maybe alternative advice, if you posted this on a parenting forum.
I'm a parent myself, and I'm really sorry but I don't come on here to read about parenting problems. I opened this thread thinking it was a request for Travis to come and play in your part of the world!
I truly wish you well, and I empathise and sympathise with what sounds like a ghastly situation. However, I also have issues with one of my kids, and I would not in any circustances think of drawing attention to the problem here.
If this forum is where you draw your "spritual" support from, as it appears, I'm a bit bewildered. But I genuinely wish you "good luck, and I hope you get the outcome you wish for".
(Assuming that's what you wanted by starting the thread, so I guess that means you've achieved your aim ).
I can do sympathy - in small doses - and I wrote a few things before I settled on my original post, which is far more sedate than I originally intentioned.
I've always maintained that if you (or I) post anything on this board (from the sublime to the ridiculous) you're open to opinions, suggestions and (sometimes) negative feedback - that's the way the virtual world works, particularly as there is no hard and fast rule about what you can and cannot post here. People can be harsh (not in a swearing/insulting way, because that is wrong) or generally not what you were expecting, but I believe it all adds something to a conversation, even if the majority might not agree.
With regard to the "bitiching", I was matching the tone of the poster who replied to me. I rarely bitch without reason.
And Ursina wasn't "slagging off" the poster for posting in the wrong forum, this is quite evident.
Sorry Tonie, I thought it best to tag onto the end of your post, not all of my response is aimed at you. Nice post there btw.
And, I too, wish the family well.
We all agree on wishing the family well of course.
What's evident to one is not to all.
