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Moray Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 4:42 PM |
So i'm not having a good day today.
My older sister has bought a flat in the same apartment complex as me. She moves in today and my parents decided to come in to help. Only the removal men were going to be late by around 2.5 hours. So they phoned me and said they were going to stop in past my flat while they waited.
I went home at lunchtime to grab my gear for playing football to find they'd decided to spring clean my flat for me. At my time of entering, mum had cleaned half the bathroom, dad had hoovered half the hall, cleaned half the windows, done half the dishes, left the bucket half full of water, dismantled my cooker, broken my bathroom bin, moved all my furniture and cleaning products were EVERYWHERE!
Now, you have to understand, there's a hierarchy of favouritism in my family. So when my older sister rang to say "That's the removal men here" my parents downed tools and started to leave. I was like " Thanks guys, I hope you're going to finish what you've started"
Well, they flipped the lid at me. Apparently I was supposed to appreciate the effort they'd gone to, and finish off what they'd started when I got in. Well That I did appreciate, and I said thanks for being so thoughtful. However, from my point of view, I've been at work all day, and am off to play footie after work. So I have to get home tonight to a flat thats in a state of half finished flux, full of jobs half done that i'll need to finish. E.g. in my spare room one window of a double window is clean, the other not!!
And it's all jobs I had zero intention of doing myself tonight as I'm tired and have other proirities.
Parents eh.
Oh and add to that they've given my elder sister the keys to stay at my flat tonight in the spare room because she'll be tired after the days move.
Not a thought that on top of my additional work of half arsed cleaning, I also have to entertain a house guest.
Some people eh. |
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Gladly (the cross-eyed bear) Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 4:46 PM |
| Why are your parents having to clean for you in the first place? |
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Moray Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 4:52 PM |
Because they're mental. I assumed they'd be stopping in past the flat to have a sit down and watch the TV while they waited.
Dad was washing the sideboards at one point. We're not talking stuff you'd do on a weekly basis. |
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Turtleneck Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 4:53 PM |
Just smile, tidy what what has to be done, don't bother with the rest and go on about your life. I'm sure they started with the best of intentions of helping you. (When my grandmother would visit, she would often clean while my mother was at work. It drove my mom nuts, but I can see that my grandma was just doing what she saw that needed to be done and keeping herself busy at the same time.)
Parents won't be around forever. You'll miss 'em when they're gone.
Be thankful you have siblings. Your sister is not necessarily a "guest" that you have to entertain. I'm sure she's fully capable of that, and is anxious to get back to her own place and settle in. It's not like she's staying for 3 days and you have to plan meals.
No one's done anything horrible to you in my view. You just have a family acting like a family. |
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minnmess Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 4:55 PM |
that is pretty annoying, but think you just need to chalk that up to parents being parents. They are not rational human beings!
(sorry to all the parents on here) |
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weirdmom Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 4:58 PM |
That would have been really nice had they finished what they started or at least agreed to come back later and at minimum put things back the way they were.
That is pretty nuts.
I had a friend whose mother-in-law was crazy and once she came home to find her kitchen cabinets all reorganized (like all the plates were now in a different cabinet, etc.). Her reason was "it wasn't as efficient as it could be."
It wasn't funny to her but as an outsider it's so crazy you just have to laugh. |
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SamuraiSandy Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 4:58 PM |
I don't get that...some of my family does that sometimes too. Why can't they just come and watch tv or something? Why feel the need to clean someone else's place? (or, was it just so messy they felt they had to clean it? ;) )
Well, it was nice that they did it, but you hadn't asked them to do so, and for them to 1/2 do it and leave stuff all around your place to put away, I agree, is irritating. |
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Moray Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 5:00 PM |
| what gets me is it doesn't work the other way round. I can't go to their house and tell them it needs a clean! |
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SamuraiSandy Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 5:02 PM |
weirdmom wrote: I had a friend whose mother-in-law was crazy and once she came home to find her kitchen cabinets all reorganized (like all the plates were now in a different cabinet, etc.). Her reason was "it wasn't as efficient as it could be."
My sister (not Mary) used to do that to my mom's place. My mom is a horrible organizer, and I could understand my sister for wanting to do so, but in the end, it's not her place, and you can't just go and do that. Maybe suggest a new way of organizing, but to do so without their consent or knowledge--that's bad. |
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Turtleneck Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 5:04 PM |
Moray wrote: what gets me is it doesn't work the other way round. I can't go to their house and tell them it needs a clean!
No, you can't. You are always going to be the child. They are always going to be the parents.
Don't worry, when they get really old, you will have to go over to their house and clean. But at least you have sisters to help.
--Signed,
Person with only one rapidly-aging parent left, no siblings and no cousins. |
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weirdmom Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 5:04 PM |
Moray wrote: what gets me is it doesn't work the other way round. I can't go to their house and tell them it needs a clean!
Do you think they were really doing it to be critical or because they just wanted to help out and do something nice for you?
It would be interesting though if you went to their house and half cleaned and left a bunch of cleaning products out. |
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megg_inc Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 5:11 PM |
Moray wrote: E.g. in my spare room one window of a double window is clean, the other not!!
Jaysus, what a nightmare! :P
My mum's the same and I know it can be irritating but I'm pretty sure they just wanted to be nice.
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Moray Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 5:17 PM |
Turtleneck wrote: Moray wrote: what gets me is it doesn't work the other way round. I can't go to their house and tell them it needs a clean!
No, you can't. You are always going to be the child. They are always going to be the parents.
Don't worry, when they get really old, you will have to go over to their house and clean. But at least you have sisters to help.
--Signed,
Person with only one rapidly-aging parent left, no siblings and no cousins.
Duly noted Kayte. I see your point, and I will just be grateful for what I have! |
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Scottish Dubliner Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 5:18 PM |
My parents used to pull sh!t like that all the time, part of the reason I moved over here, feckers can't get me, haha
Dubz
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weirdmom Posted Mon 11 Aug, 2008 5:19 PM |
Turtleneck wrote: Moray wrote: what gets me is it doesn't work the other way round. I can't go to their house and tell them it needs a clean!
No, you can't. You are always going to be the child. They are always going to be the parents.
Don't worry, when they get really old, you will have to go over to their house and clean. But at least you have sisters to help.
--Signed,
Person with only one rapidly-aging parent left, no siblings and no cousins.
Yes I was going to say she makes a very good point.
And Kayte, I'm sorry about your situation. That situation is something I really fear. At least I have a brother. But he doesn't speak to our father so when it comes to him, it's all me. |
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