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Hanne Posted Sun 22 Jun, 2008 8:11 PM |
I've just seen a documentary about girls being treated for eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia.
It made a really great impression on me to see just how disturbed their views on their own bodies was. They saw food as an evil. Some of the girls realised that they had to do something about it, although it was difficult. Others just thought that everyone else was wrong and did all sorts of things to avoid gaining weight like they were supposed to.
I know that one of my cousins had anorexia (and could probably still go back to it), but we've never been close enough for us to talk about it. I only see her once a year or so, and sometimes she looks healthy (like at the moment, she had a baby last year), and sometimes she's been thin like a twig about to break in half.
I just wonder what could bring you so far out that you perceive yourself as fat even though you're too thin? Is it "just" a question about being in control?
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Edel Posted Sun 22 Jun, 2008 8:35 PM |
As well as a control thing from domineering parents, the perception can be distorted as a result from sexual, physical or emotional abuse. Esp sexual abuse leads to eaing disorders. Media influence doesnt exactly help
I think this ad says so much, makes me sad whenever it comes on :0(
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8uzXLhNSrd8
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Hanne Posted Sun 22 Jun, 2008 8:43 PM |
I'd never seen that add, but it sums it up fairly well. I wouldn't even say that girl #1 is overweight.
The documentary I mentioned was one that I recorded on DR2 last night. Apart from the reasons above, it also sounded like peer pressure played a big role.
For all of them though, this was something that had started as a relatively small thing and then spinned completely out of control. |
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Edel Posted Sun 22 Jun, 2008 8:53 PM |
Hopefully it will be repeated again. Didnt know it was on but rarely have tv on. Seems to be nothing but shite on.
Its sad, Megan and her friends are all weight fixated but luckily it doesnt affect her appetite. Frustrating telling her to stfu when she starts that "Im fat" shit. School nurse told her she was slightly underweight yet, she still goes on about being fat grrrrrrrrrrrr. But its not problematic, just annoying. A friend of hers has stopped eating and her mothers worried shitless. 11 years old :0/ |
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Hanne Posted Sun 22 Jun, 2008 9:03 PM |
You know, my cousin's daughter, the niece of the cousin mentioned above, started throwing up her meals... She's 10. Last I heard it was under control. The sundhedsplejerske had told my cousin to not let her daughter out of her sight for 30 minutes after a meal. In that way, her body would have absorbed what it needed in case she went and threw it up again.
But it's just so sad that it starts at that age. Megan is so far from overweight, she's more on the skinny side, I think. Does it have any effect to tell her that she needs a BMI of at least 20? |
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Edel Posted Sun 22 Jun, 2008 9:43 PM |
ahh thats nasty:0/ Only 10 :0( Its seems too weird that kids that age would even know of such a thing to do unless being genuinely sick. But glad its under control.
Im not really worried about Megan. Think its the peer pressure thing as you say, its what the other girls talk about as well as bras, make up, boys, shaving for the love of Jesus. But theres a few mums and we meet up at a cafe once a month to talk about it. We dont know whats 'normal' for kids that age as certainly wasnt the same when we were that age haha. So shes under control that way, need to know where she is at all times etc etc. She thinks Im strict Jaysus. Some friends are allowed on the streets till 12 at weekends and you know my neighbourhood:0/ Daft parents imo. But her food isnt controlled and I dont do diets in front of my kids. Ive always been afraid to force my kids to eat up. Will hopefully never be something that subconsciously they feel they suddenly can take control of. Dont know if it works that way though |
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Hanne Posted Sun 22 Jun, 2008 9:48 PM |
I don't think there is a single right thing to do or way to act in this respect. You have to make it up as you go along. But it's a great initiative to talk to the other mums. In that way you all help each other keeping an eye on the girls :o)
I'm off to bed now, goodnight :o) |
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Edel Posted Sun 22 Jun, 2008 10:03 PM |
| Night missus, drøm sødt:0) |
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