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Hanne Posted Tue 08 Apr, 2008 8:23 PM |
Today I went to the third funeral in a month. It wasn't really a tragedy this time though cos my uncle was senile, so he'd already lost his personality. Then he became ill and everything went quite fast after that. Actually, I would say that it was for the best for him, since he didn't have to be ill too long, and my aunt and cousins didn't have to watch him wither away even more.
It's nice to see the family often and all that, but I do hope that the next occasion will my dad's 60th birthday next month, and not another funeral! |
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Turtleneck Posted Tue 08 Apr, 2008 8:27 PM |
| I hope so, too. |
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mili Posted Tue 08 Apr, 2008 8:31 PM |
| Oh, poor you! Hope the next gatherings are happy ones! |
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Aletways Posted Tue 08 Apr, 2008 8:39 PM |
| I'm so sorry! I hope that you have happy family reunions from now on! |
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weirdmom Posted Tue 08 Apr, 2008 9:43 PM |
My first thought was that I was hoping you were making a not-so-funny joke. I am sorry that you aren't kidding but glad that it seems like this really was for the best.
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varz Posted Tue 08 Apr, 2008 10:01 PM |
| Aww Hanne, huge hugs to you. You've had such an awful run of horrible times, fingers crossed for lots of good times coming your way. xx |
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Hanne Posted Tue 08 Apr, 2008 10:09 PM |
weirdmom wrote: My first thought was that I was hoping you were making a not-so-funny joke. I am sorry that you aren't kidding but glad that it seems like this really was for the best.
I wish it were a joke, but alas, it's not. However, when my mum told me on Thursday that my uncle had died, I almost had to laugh due to the irony of life. I was at work and I immediately told my manager that I'd need time off for another funeral, and she looked at me like I had to be joking.
But as you say, this time it was for the best, so not such a tragedy :o)
Gonna go to bed now, goodnight! |
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megg_inc Posted Tue 08 Apr, 2008 10:12 PM |
| I'm so sorry Hanne! |
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Ursina Posted Wed 09 Apr, 2008 9:43 AM |
aww Hanne you really had your fair share at wearing the funeral garb now!
Hope you're well :) |
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Scottish Dubliner Posted Wed 09 Apr, 2008 10:03 AM |
Hanne wrote: Today I went to the third funeral in a month. It wasn't really a tragedy this time though cos my uncle was senile, so he'd already lost his personality. Then he became ill and everything went quite fast after that. Actually, I would say that it was for the best for him, since he didn't have to be ill too long, and my aunt and cousins didn't have to watch him wither away even more.
It's nice to see the family often and all that, but I do hope that the next occasion will my dad's 60th birthday next month, and not another funeral!
My Grandmother died last year in January, the week after I had just returned to Dublin, (inconsiderate woman). Again tho' it was no great tragedy she was 81 and had OldTimers (altzihmers) for several years, she was like a kid before she passed on, my aunt is a care worker and as such got her into sheltered accomodation and looked after her, even tho' Gran had no idea who she was. When she passed she'd led a good life was well looked after, well fed, warm and comfortable. She just went to sleep one night nad never woke up.
My Dad had refused to go see her for the last few years and while I understand his decision I still think he should have gone to see her, even if she wouldn't recognise him. I flew home the minute I heard, not so much for the funeral but just to be there for him. I am so proud of the way he conducted himself throughout, he was there for the rest of the family and behaved with total decorum.
It was a fantastic funeral, a celebration of the life she had lived rather than the loss of a woman.
Helen "Nellie" Judge 1926 - 2007
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Hanne Posted Wed 09 Apr, 2008 10:37 AM |
Scottish Dubliner wrote: [
My Grandmother died last year in January, the week after I had just returned to Dublin, (inconsiderate woman). Again tho' it was no great tragedy she was 81 and had OldTimers (altzihmers) for several years, she was like a kid before she passed on, my aunt is a care worker and as such got her into sheltered accomodation and looked after her, even tho' Gran had no idea who she was. When she passed she'd led a good life was well looked after, well fed, warm and comfortable. She just went to sleep one night nad never woke up.
My Dad had refused to go see her for the last few years and while I understand his decision I still think he should have gone to see her, even if she wouldn't recognise him. I flew home the minute I heard, not so much for the funeral but just to be there for him. I am so proud of the way he conducted himself throughout, he was there for the rest of the family and behaved with total decorum.
It was a fantastic funeral, a celebration of the life she had lived rather than the loss of a woman.
Helen "Nellie" Judge 1926 - 2007
Dubz
I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. My own grandmother (both of them, actually) passed away while I lived in Scotland so I didn't make it home for either of the funerals. My point though is that one of them also had Alzheimers for 10 years or so before she died. The last couple of times I saw her, it wasn't even possible to get eye contact with her. My mum was her legal guardian, but she was in a care home for quite a few of those years. You yourself know how sad it is to see a woman who was so fantastic just deteriorate and lose her personality.
In a way I'm happy that my uncle didn't get to the point where you couldn't even get in touch with him - it makes it a bit easier to still remember the person he was before he became senile.
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Hanne Posted Wed 09 Apr, 2008 10:45 AM |
Ursina wrote: aww Hanne you really had your fair share at wearing the funeral garb now!
Hope you're well :)
I'm ok, it wasn't such a terrible tragedy this time. But no more funerals for me in the near future, please! |
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sorry angel Posted Fri 11 Apr, 2008 9:16 AM |
I'm very sorry to read this, sorry for your loss and pain dear. Thank you for posting and sharing with us, and also Dubz.
It's very moving for me reading your experiences and feelings as I didn't have the luck to have grandparents. |
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Hanne Posted Fri 11 Apr, 2008 9:57 AM |
sorry angel wrote: I'm very sorry to read this, sorry for your loss and pain dear. Thank you for posting and sharing with us, and also Dubz.
It's very moving for me reading your experiences and feelings as I didn't have the luck to have grandparents.
I'm glad your saying this. When I posted this last post, I was afraid that people would start thinking that I was just digging for attention. The reason why I've posted about all these funerals is that it feels good to share it. Furtermore, it's also quite a relief to get all this sympathy from the board. It really helps :o) |
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