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goosey_84 Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 6:56 PM |
the fella i like tells me he adores me but that i deserve someone better than him? huh?
for real? at least be honest. it's perfectly fine to say "i'm not interested". |
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AbsolutPurple Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 7:01 PM |
| he may suffer from low self-esteem |
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bogusblue Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 7:01 PM |
| I hate when they do that!!! They just need to be honest and don't go around saying all that stupid things. =P |
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Turtleneck Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 7:13 PM |
Cop out. It flatters you and he gets to weasel out of the situation. He probably practices it in a mirror.
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scummy Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 7:37 PM |
| yeah, he might not trust himself, or maybe doesn't wanna hurt you, but NEVER say you diserve something better, just say 'hey, we can be friends, let's see how that works out', i don't know. when i don't like a guy, or lose interest, i say 'hey, hum, i'm not sure of what i feel, can we be friends at least'? very simple and honest, not like men xD not all, i guess |
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goosey_84 Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 7:41 PM |
lol well obviously i wasn't ok with letting it stay that way so i said something to the effect of "i feel like that's a cop out. if you don't like me you can just say so". (obviously i'm no good at beating 'round the bush hahaha)...unfortunately i said this during a phone conversation so he said we'll talk about this in person. which may or may not be tomorrow.
i feel like maybe i shouldn't be so forward but *shrug* what are ya gonna do? haha |
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Turtleneck Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 7:42 PM |
AbsolutPurple wrote: he may suffer from low self-esteem
A man with low self-esteem is quite rare. I think I've only met one in all my life. I don't think he even suffered from it. It was a very mild case. |
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AbsolutPurple Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 7:52 PM |
Turtleneck wrote: AbsolutPurple wrote: he may suffer from low self-esteem
A man with low self-esteem is quite rare. I think I've only met one in all my life. I don't think he even suffered from it. It was a very mild case.
self-esteem or the lack of it isn't for women only is it ? |
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Turtleneck Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 7:56 PM |
AbsolutPurple wrote: Turtleneck wrote: AbsolutPurple wrote: he may suffer from low self-esteem
A man with low self-esteem is quite rare. I think I've only met one in all my life. I don't think he even suffered from it. It was a very mild case.
self-esteem or the lack of it isn't for women only is it ?
I'm afraid it is, in most cases. |
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goosey_84 Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 8:00 PM |
AbsolutPurple wrote: Turtleneck wrote: AbsolutPurple wrote: he may suffer from low self-esteem
A man with low self-esteem is quite rare. I think I've only met one in all my life. I don't think he even suffered from it. It was a very mild case.
self-esteem or the lack of it isn't for women only is it ?
i blame society. i see it as a "why are you happy with yourself or where you're at in life? i have more money than you, look better than you, (etc, etc) and i'm not happy! so why should you be?!" and then they systematically take you downnnn!
too drastic? i'm sure you catch my drift...hahaha |
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scummy Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 8:02 PM |
Turtleneck wrote: AbsolutPurple wrote: Turtleneck wrote: AbsolutPurple wrote: he may suffer from low self-esteem
A man with low self-esteem is quite rare. I think I've only met one in all my life. I don't think he even suffered from it. It was a very mild case.
self-esteem or the lack of it isn't for women only is it ?
I'm afraid it is, in most cases.
oh no, I've met lots of men with low self-esteem, most of them find themselves ugly or not good enough for a lady :/ |
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AbsolutPurple Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 8:07 PM |
goosey_84 wrote: AbsolutPurple wrote: Turtleneck wrote: AbsolutPurple wrote: he may suffer from low self-esteem
A man with low self-esteem is quite rare. I think I've only met one in all my life. I don't think he even suffered from it. It was a very mild case.
self-esteem or the lack of it isn't for women only is it ?
i blame society. i see it as a "why are you happy with yourself or where you're at in life? i have more money than you, look better than you, (etc, etc) and i'm not happy! so why should you be?!" and then they systematically take you downnnn!
too drastic? i'm sure you catch my drift...hahaha
i don't think looking good or having money is the root of self esteem - to me, having a good self-esteem is linked to how you see yourself, if you're happy with your achievements whatever they may be
Comparing yourself to others isn't the good way to build your self-esteem |
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Typing to Reach You Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 8:10 PM |
*butts in to women's conversation*
Low self esteem isn't just a female thing I can assure you. :p |
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AbsolutPurple Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 8:17 PM |
Typing to Reach You wrote: *butts in to women's conversation*
Low self esteem isn't just a female thing I can assure you. :p
that's what i thought |
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goosey_84 Posted Fri 14 Dec, 2007 8:20 PM |
AbsolutPurple wrote:
i don't think looking good or having money is the root of self esteem - to me, having a good self-esteem is linked to how you see yourself, if you're happy with your achievements whatever they may be
Comparing yourself to others isn't the good way to build your self-esteem
i agree. lately i've been focusing more on me being happy with me and it's kept me in a better mood. |
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