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Emmy Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 3:40 AM |
Sorry about this.. the only thing I tend to post about here is relationships and all the complications that go with them. I know that can be boring for many to read, and for that, I apolgize for this. But I tend to do this once I get advice from fellow friends and then need reassurance from complete strangers - which would be you good people.
To cut to the chase there's a guy I'm interested in work for about two months now. Over the past weeks I've gotten to know him more through casual conversations, often involving talks in a full group setting. Anyway, there are some differences between us, just like everybody, but I'm still interested in him, if only it's just bettering our friendship and nothing romantical. That's not a word, I know.
The thing is that I'll be changing jobs in about two weeks, and I'd still like to make a move to let him know that maybe we could be an item, but for sure friends. Anyway, my office is all going out for drinks this Friday after work and he's coming too.
He's mentioned that's he's excited about going because it won't mean staring at a blank wall on a friday night. He also lives in the same apartment complex that I do. Random tidbits for you there.
Anyway, the Nutcracker is going on this weekend. Tickets are chep and I'm thinking maybe I could see if he wanted to go. Thing is that I've never made the iniative and think it might come off awkwardly.
I'm also thinking just to cool it and do nothing (ie scared of rejection in a way I suppose) and think that I'll work up the courage to ask him to do something with me when I'm at my new job.
Guys and girls please pass on your advice. Sorry to keep balking on about this and thanks for reading. |
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Darran Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 9:31 AM |
You're a very neagtive young lady.
Is this about the third time now you have posted about this guy yet still done NOTHING?
Personally if it was me a drink would be cool and with it being a work thing now it's even easier to get chatting.
As for The Nutcracker, to me it seems a bit OTT unless he is into that type of thing, then again if he wants to be with you and spend time with you he won't even have an interest at what is happening on the stage.
Other than that I would go down to his apartment and tell him you are out of tea bags or coffee and could you lend some and hey he even may invite you in and make you a cuppa. |
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sorry angel Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 10:22 AM |
Oï are you looking for love or a dead end my dear? Darran is right, chin up, it's great to fancy someone and since you're still interested in him after two months then it means enough to you to move forward.
I entirely agree with Darran's advice, Nutcracker is too much but you can mention you like it and that you're going. The Friday drinks is good too to get chatty, and 2 weeks is anought time to make some subbtle moves. And anyway since you live in the same building you can see each other after that job.
Fingers crossed, go girl but be subbtle. |
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Gladly (the cross-eyed bear) Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 11:29 AM |
| Unusual i know , but *bites tongue* |
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Nell Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 1:43 PM |
Darran wrote: i
Other than that I would go down to his apartment and tell him you are out of tea bags or coffee and could you lend some and hey he even may invite you in and make you a cuppa.
That's a fabulous idea! I'd do that!
I also think that -if he never showed any intrests in shows like the Nutcracker ;) he might also think it's OTT.......
But hey...Xmas coming and you're baking...and you're...out of flour..f.e....so you might need to borrow some...and also might need some help with the whole chocolate-thing..?
you never know ;)
and it also is kind of a spontaneous act. I mean - worst case scenario: he give's you the flour and tells you a lame excuse why he's no time to chat with you - best case scenario you get him to help you baking :) or finish of eating the cookies..or..you - what do I know? :)
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dee Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 6:38 PM |
same apartment complex and everything?
personally i'd work on getting to know him and being friends first and let all the other stuff fall into place afterwards, otherwise it could be awkward going out with him before you know him fully.
the coffee thing ( or anything similar) sounds nice and casual, perfectly good excuse to get to know somebody better.
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weirdmom Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 6:47 PM |
I agree that the Nutcracker is a bit much but asking him to do something casual would be great.
You've been mooning over this guy for two months now.
Time to grab the bull by the horns. |
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minnmess Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 6:47 PM |
weirdmom wrote:
Time to grab the bull by the horns.
hmm, where have I heard that advise before? |
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weirdmom Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 7:03 PM |
minnmess wrote: weirdmom wrote:
Time to grab the bull by the horns.
Where have I heard that before?
Don't know. It's a lyric in a Travis song so maybe there?
See around 2:16
P.S. I was standing right next to Sandy at this show.
P.P.S. I do hum that line to myself sometimes when I need a little courage. |
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minnmess Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 7:10 PM |
| I think even more poetic than Franny, is when a Weirdmom from Texas is yelling it at you through various new media formats. |
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weirdmom Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 7:12 PM |
minnmess wrote: I think even more poetic than Franny, is when a Weirdmom from Texas is yelling it at you through various new media formats.
bats eyes
*blushes* |
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minnmess Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 7:14 PM |
| Well Annie, my dear, maybe someone will listen to your advice, because I certainly havent. |
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goosey_84 Posted Thu 18 Dec, 2008 7:38 PM |
Gladly (the cross-eyed bear) wrote: Unusual i know , but *bites tongue*
gasp! are you alright gladders?! |
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Gladly (the cross-eyed bear) Posted Fri 19 Dec, 2008 10:31 AM |
goosey_84 wrote: Gladly (the cross-eyed bear) wrote: Unusual i know , but *bites tongue*
gasp! are you alright gladders?!
so cynical :) |
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goosey_84 Posted Fri 19 Dec, 2008 2:48 PM |
Gladly (the cross-eyed bear) wrote: goosey_84 wrote: Gladly (the cross-eyed bear) wrote: Unusual i know , but *bites tongue*
gasp! are you alright gladders?!
so cynical :)
:D just makin' sure you're well dear! i always adore how upfront you and a some of the other (dubz, esteban) fellas are! ;) how many times have you told us girls to just 'grow a pair' when it comes to asking a fella out? |
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