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Turtleneck Posted Fri 19 Sep, 2008 2:17 PM |
lindsey22295, your grandma just loves you very much and may think that you will face many obstacles by becoming a doctor. Because in her day, you would have! But I think statistics show that more females than males are enrolled in medical school these days. I bet when you graduate, she will brag about you more than anyone.
My paternal grandparents died before I was born. But I spent all my summers as a kid with my maternal grandparents. They were great people! Very conservative, yes, and I think a lot of that has rubbed off on me, but they were ULTRA conservative. My grandma didn't think that women should wear only skirts or dresses, never pants! She also felt that ugly people shouldn't be allowed to be on television. That always cracked me up! Maybe that came from going to movies during the Hollywood golden age when all the movie stars were gorgeous. But when it came to people, they just overflowed love. They were the kindest, most generous, good-hearted people I've ever known. Neither of them graduated high school (my grandpa quit school at 9 years old to go work in the coal mines and my grandma has to drop out after 9th grade) and they were so proud of me for graduating college.
My grandpa passed away the year before I got married and my grandma has Alzheimer's disease now and had a severe stroke a few years ago. She is in a nursing home now, in a wheelchair, unable to speak or do anything for herself. It breaks my heart. Even before the stroke, she didn't recognize my two younger kids. It really shook me up one day when Max was running around and she said to me, "That's such a cute little boy. Who does he belong to?" My aunt lives near her and visits every day.
So old fashioned as they may be, they are precious. Talk to them. Find out what makes them tick. It also gives you insight into your parents. Take the good and pass it down. Never take them for granted. |
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spid Posted Fri 19 Sep, 2008 2:34 PM |
| old people are just that old and stuck in their ways - she didn't mean it personally that a girl can't /shouldn't do medicine it's just the way she was brought up and indocrinated - rather than get cross and upset with her think of it as a project 'how to re-educate g'ma'. My G'ma (now dad) spent the last years of her life bemoaning how when she was in labour her husband slept through it all and wasn't there for the births and got upset about it -i had to remind her that was what was done then and he hadn't been being horrid. Society changes. Get old people talking about the old days and they can seem really nice! |
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moominbadger Posted Fri 19 Sep, 2008 2:38 PM |
Turtleneck wrote: So old fashioned as they may be, they are precious. Talk to them. Find out what makes them tick. It also gives you insight into your parents. Take the good and pass it down. Never take them for granted.
I so agree with this Kayte. My grandparents were all dead by the time I was 13 and I was too young to really appreciate and get to know them. I would give anything to talk to them now, especially my maternal grandmother who died ten years before I was even born. She sounded like such a lovely woman. Luckily, she kept diaries which my mum has passed down to me and it's given me a real insight to her life. I just wish she was around today to have a chat with! |
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Gladly (the cross-eyed bear) Posted Fri 19 Sep, 2008 2:45 PM |
minnmess wrote: my grandmother once told me that i wouldnt make a very good wife bc i dont like cleaning. if thats the definition of wife, i will pass thank you!
Whats the problem? |
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minnmess Posted Fri 19 Sep, 2008 2:59 PM |
Gladly (the cross-eyed bear) wrote: minnmess wrote: my grandmother once told me that i wouldnt make a very good wife bc i dont like cleaning. if thats the definition of wife, i will pass thank you!
Whats the problem?
that i hate cleaning!
my friends family runs a fruit orchard which she helps at in the summer and old men tell her that she will make a good wife bc she "works hard." it's really funny |
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Gladly (the cross-eyed bear) Posted Fri 19 Sep, 2008 3:02 PM |
| Nobody said women had to like cleaning. Its just your job ;) |
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ricv64 Posted Fri 19 Sep, 2008 3:03 PM |
minnmess wrote: Gladly (the cross-eyed bear) wrote: minnmess wrote: my grandmother once told me that i wouldnt make a very good wife bc i dont like cleaning. if thats the definition of wife, i will pass thank you!
Whats the problem?
that i hate cleaning!
my friends family runs a fruit orchard which she helps at in the summer and old men tell her that she will make a good wife bc she "works hard." it's really funny
they have orchards near Santas workshop , minZd blowZn maZn ? |
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ashleyb Posted Fri 19 Sep, 2008 3:58 PM |
I love my grandparents, though they do say the funniest things sometimes. A recent conversation with my grandma on her birthday this year comes to mind. It was her 80th and she was talking about how she still feels young, like a teenager, etc. She then mentioned how she was married at 19 (how old I was at the time) and was having children. Later on, she asks me if I have a boyfriend and when I say no, she says "well I should hope not! You're far too young for that sort of thing!" It was just the most adorable thing, her tone, and saying it right after she was talking about being married at that age.
Also, I've recently got my other grandma addicted to Harry Potter. After she finished each book (which she did quickly) she'd call my sister and me to find out what was happening next, if Snape was really bad, etc. It was very exciting for me that she loved them so much. |
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Chiito-chan Posted Fri 19 Sep, 2008 8:56 PM |
I didn't know my grandparents. You all are lucky!
I really like reading everyones stories too, thanks for sharing! |
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I Came in Through the Bathroom Window Posted Sat 20 Sep, 2008 5:22 AM |
moominbadger wrote: Turtleneck wrote: So old fashioned as they may be, they are precious. Talk to them. Find out what makes them tick. It also gives you insight into your parents. Take the good and pass it down. Never take them for granted.
I so agree with this Kayte. My grandparents were all dead by the time I was 13 and I was too young to really appreciate and get to know them. I would give anything to talk to them now, especially my maternal grandmother who died ten years before I was even born. She sounded like such a lovely woman. Luckily, she kept diaries which my mum has passed down to me and it's given me a real insight to her life. I just wish she was around today to have a chat with!
Laura, that's so great about the diaries! So interesting!
I totally agree with you guys. I never met my maternal grandparents. They died before I was born. And my paternal grandpa died when I was 10, so I didn't get to know him well. And my grandma died when I was 15. I miss her the most. I don't think I'll ever get used to her not being here. She was so sweet and melodramatic haha. It was so funny. And she loved me and my siblings so much...
I really wish she was still here. She was fascinating.
Ah, I'm crying! I'm pathetic xD.
Appreciate your grandparents, people!
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minnmess Posted Sat 20 Sep, 2008 6:59 AM |
ricv64 wrote: minnmess wrote: Gladly (the cross-eyed bear) wrote: minnmess wrote: my grandmother once told me that i wouldnt make a very good wife bc i dont like cleaning. if thats the definition of wife, i will pass thank you!
Whats the problem?
that i hate cleaning!
my friends family runs a fruit orchard which she helps at in the summer and old men tell her that she will make a good wife bc she "works hard." it's really funny
they have orchards near Santas workshop , minZd blowZn maZn ?
i think life would be more fun if the canadian stereotypes were actually true! Think of all the fun year long winters, mounties, igloos, etc would be!
Does that make Santa Canadian? he does wear red and white
listen hear Gladly *shakes fist* |
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moominbadger Posted Sat 20 Sep, 2008 2:32 PM |
I Came in Through the Bathroom Window wrote: moominbadger wrote: Turtleneck wrote: So old fashioned as they may be, they are precious. Talk to them. Find out what makes them tick. It also gives you insight into your parents. Take the good and pass it down. Never take them for granted.
I so agree with this Kayte. My grandparents were all dead by the time I was 13 and I was too young to really appreciate and get to know them. I would give anything to talk to them now, especially my maternal grandmother who died ten years before I was even born. She sounded like such a lovely woman. Luckily, she kept diaries which my mum has passed down to me and it's given me a real insight to her life. I just wish she was around today to have a chat with!
Laura, that's so great about the diaries! So interesting!
I totally agree with you guys. I never met my maternal grandparents. They died before I was born. And my paternal grandpa died when I was 10, so I didn't get to know him well. And my grandma died when I was 15. I miss her the most. I don't think I'll ever get used to her not being here. She was so sweet and melodramatic haha. It was so funny. And she loved me and my siblings so much...
I really wish she was still here. She was fascinating.
Ah, I'm crying! I'm pathetic xD.
Appreciate your grandparents, people!
Aw, you're not pathetic Juli, it makes me cry thinking about my grandparents too. Sniff sniff! |
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Turtleneck Posted Sat 20 Sep, 2008 3:43 PM |
minnmess wrote:
Does that make Santa Canadian? he does wear red and white
No, it makes him a Red Wing. |
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Nikki Posted Sat 20 Sep, 2008 5:20 PM |
Turtleneck wrote: minnmess wrote:
Does that make Santa Canadian? he does wear red and white
No, it makes him a Red Wing.
Hahaha! :) |
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