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megg_inc Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 8:19 PM |
TheBoyWithAName wrote: megg_inc wrote: TheBoyWithAName wrote:
Actually I did my best to do a good first impression. Always when I meet someone new I ask them a lot of questions and try to be as interesting as I can, but it's a bit hard when all you get back is: "Haha okay.".
Or you're trying too hard maybe?
Can you try TOO hard?
Yes. |
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TheBoyWithAName Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 8:20 PM |
megg_inc wrote: TheBoyWithAName wrote: megg_inc wrote: TheBoyWithAName wrote:
Actually I did my best to do a good first impression. Always when I meet someone new I ask them a lot of questions and try to be as interesting as I can, but it's a bit hard when all you get back is: "Haha okay.".
Or you're trying too hard maybe?
Can you try TOO hard?
Yes.
Hrrrm so I should be less nice to people? Or what? :( |
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megg_inc Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 8:26 PM |
TheBoyWithAName wrote:
Actually I did my best to do a good first impression. Always when I meet someone new I ask them a lot of questions and try to be as interesting as I can, but it's a bit hard when all you get back is: "Haha okay.".
Hrrrm so I should be less nice to people? Or what? :(
Well, first of all- not everyone likes to be asked "a lot of questions" right after they met someone. For example I don't. Plus, I don't really think that "trying to be interesting" is a good way to actually be interesting. Maybe you should think less of what someone may think of you and stop trying to meet the expectations you think people have and just be yourself instead? |
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TheBoyWithAName Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 8:32 PM |
megg_inc wrote:
Well, first of all- not everyone likes to be asked "a lot of questions" right after they met someone. For example I don't.
So what should you say to someone who don't like questions?
Feels like 90% of all communication on the web is questions.
Well I know that some girls don't appreciate to get a lot of attention. I like to show a lot of interest in people I like, so it's a bit tricky for me.
For example my ex throw all of my roses and teddy bears in the garbage can, so I've had my share of that ;) |
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megg_inc Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 8:41 PM |
TheBoyWithAName wrote:
So what should you say to someone who don't like questions?
Feels like 90% of all communication on the web is questions.
I don't agree. A proper conversation is not a collection of Q&As, don't you think? That's called a hearing, lol!
Obviously I'm not saying you shouldn't ask any questions! |
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TheBoyWithAName Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 8:50 PM |
megg_inc wrote: TheBoyWithAName wrote:
So what should you say to someone who don't like questions?
Feels like 90% of all communication on the web is questions.
I don't agree. A proper conversation is not a collection of Q&As, don't you think? That's called a hearing, lol!
Obviously I'm not saying you shouldn't ask any questions!
I never question someone like it was a hearing, I'm a bit more relaxed than that ;) Haha!
I'll write how the conversation developed, so that we don't misunderstand eachother :P
Me: Hello there!
She: Hey
Me: What are you up to?
She: Not much, and you?
Me: Ok. No I'm just watching the tele..
She: Okay
Me: So had a good day? :)
She: Yes
She: You're boring, I'm gonna block you now...
And that was that, where did it go wrong? :P |
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Ana_Smith Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 8:56 PM |
Turtleneck wrote: One of the things I've notice as I've gotten older is that everyone has something cool about them if you stick around long enough to find it.
From my experience, I can say this is in fact quite true. If she wasn't willing to give you time and really get to know you, then she was not worth the trouble.
Usually, I tend to judge on first impressions (it's a human condition, people strike you as interesting or not)
It's a tricky business, but I never deny people a chance to change my opinion of them by talking and looking for some common ground, a shared interest. It's not a question of trying too hard, it's just establishing a connection and go on from there...otherwise, you'll probably miss out on a lot of cool people who are not that outgoing at first, who need time to feel comfortable talking to a stranger and could end up being your life long friends. If in the course of this getting to know one another, you realise that it's impossible to keep things going, then I don't consider it to be a waste of time, on the contrary, no regrets for having given a chance... |
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megg_inc Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 8:58 PM |
TheBoyWithAName wrote:
Me: Hello there!
She: Hey
Me: What are you up to?
She: Not much, and you?
Me: Ok. No I'm just watching the tele..
She: Okay
Me: So had a good day?
She: Yes
She: You're boring, I'm gonna block you now...
And that was that, where did it went wrong? :P
LOL! That was quick! Hmmm, I don't know, maybe she didn't like the tv part? |
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TheBoyWithAName Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 9:03 PM |
megg_inc wrote: TheBoyWithAName wrote:
Me: Hello there!
She: Hey
Me: What are you up to?
She: Not much, and you?
Me: Ok. No I'm just watching the tele..
She: Okay
Me: So had a good day?
She: Yes
She: You're boring, I'm gonna block you now...
And that was that, where did it went wrong? :P
LOL! That was quick! Hmmm, I don't know, maybe she didn't like the tv part?
The fact that it was a 5 minutes delay between her message may be a sign that she'd judged me before we even started chatting. Maybe I was too quick or didn't have the right looks... I'll never know cause I won't get a second chance :P
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Turtleneck Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 9:09 PM |
Of course you can try too hard. I used to know a kid who acted very much like this cartoon. No one respected him or liked him very much. But he was actually a very nice person once he stopped trying so hard.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ov-1S8Xxd94 |
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Ana_Smith Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 9:09 PM |
TheBoyWithAName wrote:
I'll write how the conversation developed, so that we don't misunderstand eachother :P
Me: Hello there!
She: Hey
Me: What are you up to?
She: Not much, and you?
Me: Ok. No I'm just watching the tele..
She: Okay
Me: So had a good day? :)
She: Yes
She: You're boring, I'm gonna block you now...
And that was that, where did it go wrong? :P
Hahaha, don't you worry, she seems to be the one with a problem!! (BTW, were you tiping too slow or sth like that? How long did it take her to get your reply? Maybe the pauses bored her :P) |
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Lizzie b Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 9:15 PM |
TheBoyWithAName wrote:
Me: Hello there!
She: Hey
Me: What are you up to?
She: Not much, and you?
Me: Ok. No I'm just watching the tele..
She: Okay
Me: So had a good day?
She: Yes
She: You're boring, I'm gonna block you now...
And that was that, where did it went wrong? :P
Um, it looks to me that she's just a bitch who decided she didn't want to talk to you from the beginning (especially if it took her 5 mins to respond). I agree w/ Kayte that she is probably just a rude little girl. I wouldn't read too much into it. There are just some ppl in the world who want instant gratification, and sadly, those are the ppl who lose out. All good things take time. |
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TheBoyWithAName Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 9:16 PM |
Turtleneck wrote: Of course you can try too hard. I used to know a kid who acted very much like this cartoon. No one respected him or liked him very much. But he was actually a very nice person once he stopped trying so hard.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ov-1S8Xxd94
Hahaha, I really hope people don't think I'm like that :P
Ana_Smith wrote: TheBoyWithAName wrote:
I'll write how the conversation developed, so that we don't misunderstand eachother :P
Me: Hello there!
She: Hey
Me: What are you up to?
She: Not much, and you?
Me: Ok. No I'm just watching the tele..
She: Okay
Me: So had a good day? :)
She: Yes
She: You're boring, I'm gonna block you now...
And that was that, where did it go wrong? :P
Hahaha, don't you worry, she seems to be the one with a problem!! (BTW, were you tiping too slow or sth like that? How long did it take her to get your reply? Maybe the pauses bored her :P)
Naaah I'm a fast typer, she was probably busy! |
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Lizzie b Posted Wed 29 Apr, 2009 9:23 PM |
Ana_Smith wrote:
otherwise, you'll probably miss out on a lot of cool people who are not that outgoing at first, who need time to feel comfortable talking to a stranger and could end up being your life long friends.
Yep! Back in school, people thought I was stuck up when I was really just shy. They thought I thought I was too good to talk to them, when really I was just shy/intimidated. |
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Meridith Posted Thu 30 Apr, 2009 1:37 AM |
Lizzie b wrote:
Yep! Back in school, people thought I was stuck up when I was really just shy. They thought I thought I was too good to talk to them, when really I was just shy/intimidated.
This happened to me too!
I do think many people are quick to judge these days. We are in a world of instant gratification with anything and everything. People get in that mindset and I think have a hard time getting out of it. But it sounds like this girl was not one to waste your time on anyway. I can understand the draw of challenge to get the "hard to get" girl but if she treats you that way without even really knowing you, she most likely treats others that way too...and trust me, you don't want to go there. Not worth it. |
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